Yes, it is hard. Yes, it is scary. Yes, it feels like you’re all alone.
It’s okay if you don’t have it all together. We know how hard it is to struggle with your thoughts and feelings. Depression is dark and empty, making you believe that you can contribute nothing to anyone or anything. And it feels like life means nothing anymore.
You may think that isolating yourself or dealing with it on your own is the best thing to do. You don’t want to be a burden to family and friends, and you may think you’re crazy for feeling this way, but that isn’t you. That is the bully in your head talking.
The bully says it will be better without you. Don’t believe it. Suicide only causes lifelong trauma for the people you love. But you don’t have to live in this dark place.
Or maybe you’re trying to push away the darkness or relieve the relentless pressure with substances or self-harm.
If this is you, be honest with your feelings. Please talk.
If this is someone you know, reach out, tough as it is. Maybe your support will help a friend or relative find the words and the assistance they need.
Let’s Get Real
If you’re in a dark place and feeling alone, ask yourself: “Who do I want to talk to?” A family member? A friend? An adult you trust? Chances are, that person already knows something is wrong, but maybe they just don’t quite know how to start the conversation.
If you can’t think of anyone, don’t give up. Or maybe you’d rather talk about your feelings with someone who’s outside of your circle of family and friends. If either situation is true, call any of the resources listed below. That might feel a bit weird and impersonal, but truly, the people at the other end of the conversation care and will listen.
Bottom line – if this is you, run toward help. If this is someone you’re worrying about, don’t run away if you think they’re struggling – show them support when they need it the most.
Honesty time. Do any of the following warning signs feel like you, or someone you know? If this is you, a friend, or someone you know, seek help.
- Talking about wanting to die or to attempt suicide, even jokingly
- Looking for suicide methods, like searching online or buying a gun
- Talking about or feeling anxious, hopeless or having no reason to live
- Pretending everything’s fine when it isn’t
- Talking about or feeling trapped or in unbearable pain
- Talking about being a burden to others
- Personality changes – not feeling, acting or behaving like the person you, or they used to be
- Increasing the use of alcohol or drugs
- Feeling or acting anxious or agitated; behaving recklessly
- Unexplained or unusually severe, violent, or rebellious behavior
- Sleeping too little or too much
- Eating too little or too much
- Trouble focusing
- Withdrawing or isolating from friends and family
- Feeling or showing rage or talking about seeking revenge
- Extreme mood swings
Does any of this sound like you? If you’re not sure, ask someone you trust if they’ve noticed any of these behaviors in you. If you’re worried about someone and seeing any of these actions or behaviors, take them as the warning signs they are.
Been there: stories from the darkness
Others have been through this. They know the fear, the shame, the aloneness. Maybe their stories will help you or someone you know to find the encouragement to reach out for help.
- If you or someone you know is in an emergency, call 911 immediately.
- If you or someone you know are in crisis or are experiencing difficult or suicidal thoughts, call the National Suicide Hotline at 1-800-273 TALK (8255)
- If talking on the phone is uncomfortable, text NAMI to 741-741 to be connected to a free, trained crisis counselor on the Crisis Text Line.
Don’t minimize your feelings or someone else’s – look for a safe person and space to talk. The Bougainvilla House is there for you, with a safe and welcoming environment for teens and their families. Take that critical first step and ask for help to overcome anxiety and depression, and reconnect to the life you want to live, or want for someone you love. Call now to find support that works for you and your family: (954) 764-7337.